“When you want something you fight for it. But when you don’t you let it go …” ~ Stefanie Fiera Saltos

They say that in Love and War, all is fair. I disagree. It isn’t fair to hurt someone and then apologize thinking it will make it all better. It isn’t fair for one person to put in all of the effort to keep the relationship from crashing into a rocky ledge. If you decide to become a part of a relationship with another person, you have to be willing to put in the effort that it takes to keep up that relationship. Just because you scored the touchdown doesn’t mean you won the game.

Seldom do people (mostly men) realize that,  like when buying a new car, a relationship isn’t done when you leave the checkout lane. You have to tune it up once in a while, you have to oil it, you have to take it out on the town sometimes. A relationships work is never done. When in a relationship, you have to wake up everyday with the mindset that you are now sharing a life with someone and everything you do and say can and will affect the other person in the relationship. If you think that is too much for you, you don’t need to be in a relationship. Back away slowly and bee line in the other direction people!!

Relationships are NOT for everyone. We all need physical stimulation, we all need emotional stimulation, but we don’t all need two full time jobs and a relationship takes full time hours.

Another thing, loving someone and being in a relationship is two entirely different things. You could love someone and not be in a relationship with them. You could be in a relationship with someone and not love them. Either way: HARD WORK!

If you want it you can have it, go and get it if you can. You have to fight for what you want. you have to fight for what you want because if you don’t, no one is going to fight for you! No one eats sleeps or goes to relieve you for you, so why should someone fight your fight for the sake of love and relationships? If you aren’t willing to fight for love or th one you love no one else is going to fight for you. If you want something done right you have to do it yourself and if you don’t want to then you don’t want it.

Sometimes, as women, we need to remind ourselves that we are worth more than what most men give us value for. ~ Me